It feels like the pressure is turned up on us in February to show just how much we love someone. We buy overpriced flowers, chocolates in outrageously huge heart boxes and spend money we don’t have trying to impress or outdo our loved ones. I feel the pressure too.
But I decided I didn’t want to feel that way anymore or have my spouse feel that way, so early on in our marriage I put a “ban” on having to get me something for Valentine’s Day. Yep, that’s right, I said no to chocolates and flowers! I didn’t need the highly caloric cheap chocolates anyway and the risk of biting into an orange cream filled chocolate was one I was tired of taking. The roses were pretty but let’s be real, they only lasted a few days at best and seemed a waste of money. Lilacs are my favorite, and come free, but in May. Well ya win some and you lose some!
So we did Valentine’s Day a little differently for years. Sometimes we’d write each other personal love notes, other times we’d have a simple candlelight dinner at home and again, being real here, other times it was sharing nachos and a quick kiss at our son’s basketball game in the middle of a busy week.
The Love chapter from the Message version goes like this:
Love never gives up. Love cares more for others than for self. Love doesn’t want what it doesn’t have. Love doesn’t strut. Doesn’t have a swelled head, Doesn’t force itself on others, Isn’t always “me first,” Doesn’t fly off the handle, Doesn’t keep score of the sins of others, Doesn’t revel when others grovel, Takes pleasure in the flowering of truth, Puts up with anything, Trusts God always, Always looks for the best, Never looks back, But keeps going to the end.1 Corinthians 13
So I challenge myself and you out there, let’s not feel the pressure to buy things but to BE THINGS to our significant others as the scripture mentions above. Forget the Russell Stover candy and how about practicing some patience instead, skip Flowerama on your way home and pray for your spouse earnestly, check your attitude at the door and learn your spouses love language and master that. I’m speaking to myself here too, Friends.
I’ve been happily married nearly 29 years as of this writing. Years later after the ban took place for about a decade, I decided to “lift” it. Seems a flower or two here and there and some mystery chocolates would be nice to take a risk on again. And isn’t that too what love is, a risk of daily doing life with someone you love. And it’s SO worth it!
Especially when you’re married to a guy named, Steve. Happy Valentine’s Day, Honey!
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